“Love isn’t supposed to hurt”

Olivia: I don’t want normal, and easy, and simple. I want..
Edison: What? What do you want, Olivia?
Olivia: I want painful, difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love. Don’t you want that, too?
Edison: Love is not supposed to be painful or devastating. Love isn’t supposed to hurt, Liv.

If you talk to me about TV/movies for a few minutes you’ll know that scandal is one of my favorite TV shows. It fuels my hopeless romantic side and my political interests. I actually have refused to begin to watch the last season, while in denial that it can actually be over. Liv cannot be over. Huck cannot be over. Mellie, work bae, cannot be over.  Fitz, for all his flaws, cannot be over….I am on a tanget and need to get to the point of this post.

I used to find the idea of this “dramatic relationship” dynamic to be romantic. I thought it meant that one was more in love if there was drama in the relationship. Every relationship should have some issues, that’s the way it works. There will be some jealousy, there will be some insecurity, there will be some really hard times…but love should not hurt. Love should not be devastating. Love should not be painful.

Love should be life changing. Love should be extraordinary. Love should change you, but it should change you for the better.

Love’s goods should outweigh the bads.

Love should not make you question your worth. Love should not make you compare yourself to others. Love shouldn’t make you doubt why you are with a person who doesn’t celebrate you. Love doesn’t make you feel like a crazy person.

Love builds up. Love speaks life, love speaks truth, love speaks LOVE. Love wraps you in warmth. Love encourages you to be a better you.  Love reminds you how dang beautiful/handsome you look all the time. Love, just, point blank period, loves.

Yes, you’re going to fight. Yes, you’re going to go through hard times. But love does not hurt. It does not hurt mentally,  physically, or emotionally. It does not devastate mentally, physically, or emotionally. It does not tear down mentally, physically, emotionally.

If it does hurt you, devastate you, tear you down. Please, please, please run as fast as you can.


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